Itās completely fair to ask a favour of an old friend, Iāve both asked and been asked of favours from people I havenāt spoken to in years. However, I think you should be upfront about it, and not act like youāre trying to get in touch for other reasons. Something like āHey, itās been a while, but I just came across XYZ and wondered if you could give me a hand?ā is completely fine IMO.
a former roommate called me out the blue one day like eight years after he moved out. we hadnāt talked since then. after the reminiscing he tried to get me to switch utility company. thatās crossing a line, i feel.
Oh, definitely. But thatās also where the āupfrontā part could have saved them: If they had contacted you and been direct about āhey, Iām selling utilities now, would you be interested in switching?ā, then followed up with āon another note, itās been a while, wanna grab dinner and catch up a bit?ā That would have been a completely different story.
Point two cents per kWh? Holy hell; thatās 75 times less than the US average. Were you feeding a ton of rooftop solar back into the grid or something?
no, that was just the normal cost of power in norrbotten from 2010 to 2020. varying by time of day, of course. 18 ƶre/kWh was peak price.
now that iām no longer living up there iām forced to cough up more than 5 times the price. they raised it from 60 ƶre/kWh to 250 when inflation was real bad, now weāre down to like 120 ƶre/kWh. itās shocking how bad it has become with increased interconnectivity in the european grid.
Edit: Iām an idiot who canāt read. of course youāre right, itās two cents.
Opinions will vary here, but I like when the reminiscing comes after the request. If we catch up after talking to each other out of the blue, then you ask me for a favour, I tend to think that we only caught up because you felt obliged to do so to butter me up. It could be viewed as manipulative.
Bonus points if you ask me for a favour and I say I canāt right now, but you still take the time to catch up. Thatās a pretty strong signal that you view the relationship as more than transactional. It also means Iām more likely to change my mind about doing that favour.
I would actually prefer that theyāre upfront about contacting me because they need a favour, and then using that as an opening to catch up. If they first spend 30 min catching up before jumping to ābtw, could you help me out with thisā it gives the feeling that they only did the catching up to get me to help them. When itās the other way around, it feels like they genuinely want to catch up a bit, and used the favour as an excuse/opportunity to contact me to catch up. A personal favourite is if someone wants help with something in the house and asks if I want to come over to help them out and then we can get some beers and a pizza afterwards. Having something to do together can make it a lot easier to pick up the conversation with someone you havenāt met for a long time.
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Itās completely fair to ask a favour of an old friend, Iāve both asked and been asked of favours from people I havenāt spoken to in years. However, I think you should be upfront about it, and not act like youāre trying to get in touch for other reasons. Something like āHey, itās been a while, but I just came across XYZ and wondered if you could give me a hand?ā is completely fine IMO.
a former roommate called me out the blue one day like eight years after he moved out. we hadnāt talked since then. after the reminiscing he tried to get me to switch utility company. thatās crossing a line, i feel.
Oh, definitely. But thatās also where the āupfrontā part could have saved them: If they had contacted you and been direct about āhey, Iām selling utilities now, would you be interested in switching?ā, then followed up with āon another note, itās been a while, wanna grab dinner and catch up a bit?ā That would have been a completely different story.
not to mention heād lived with me. he knew we paid like 0.2Ā¢/kWh. no way heād get me to switch.
Cries in german energy prices
oh no that was a few years ago. we are very much suffering from your prices now. theyāre dragging the whole of europe along.
I can see from the available data energy prices across Europe have indeed become somewhat homogeneously.
I canāt find any sensible source that speaks about germanys role. Care to elaborate?
Point two cents per kWh? Holy hell; thatās 75 times less than the US average. Were you feeding a ton of rooftop solar back into the grid or something?
no, that was just the normal cost of power in norrbotten from 2010 to 2020. varying by time of day, of course. 18 ƶre/kWh was peak price.
now that iām no longer living up there iām forced to cough up more than 5 times the price. they raised it from 60 ƶre/kWh to 250 when inflation was real bad, now weāre down to like 120 ƶre/kWh. itās shocking how bad it has become with increased interconnectivity in the european grid.
Edit: Iām an idiot who canāt read. of course youāre right, itās two cents.
Iāve had this happen and I just want you to put in the 30 minutes to catch up instead of treating me like an object.
Opinions will vary here, but I like when the reminiscing comes after the request. If we catch up after talking to each other out of the blue, then you ask me for a favour, I tend to think that we only caught up because you felt obliged to do so to butter me up. It could be viewed as manipulative.
Bonus points if you ask me for a favour and I say I canāt right now, but you still take the time to catch up. Thatās a pretty strong signal that you view the relationship as more than transactional. It also means Iām more likely to change my mind about doing that favour.
Thatās fine too.
Itās just when someone asks you for help and disappears that I hate. Like your only worth is TOS problem and theyāre done with you now
I would actually prefer that theyāre upfront about contacting me because they need a favour, and then using that as an opening to catch up. If they first spend 30 min catching up before jumping to ābtw, could you help me out with thisā it gives the feeling that they only did the catching up to get me to help them. When itās the other way around, it feels like they genuinely want to catch up a bit, and used the favour as an excuse/opportunity to contact me to catch up. A personal favourite is if someone wants help with something in the house and asks if I want to come over to help them out and then we can get some beers and a pizza afterwards. Having something to do together can make it a lot easier to pick up the conversation with someone you havenāt met for a long time.
Itās fun an all or whatever but letās not forget that this āartistā is making a shitton of horribly misogynistic crap
I had no idea. Thatās pretty badā¦
Edit: Oof, yeah theyāre a piece of shit
Do you have examples/context? Iāve seen these comics around here and there but I donāt recall seeing anything misogynistic
https://www.reddit.com/r/mendrawingwomen/comments/uib4he/cool_transphobia_again/
Oh neat, misogynistic and transphobic
Yeah, I feel like if someone is misogynistic being transphobic always comes along.
Nah, Iāve met some trans-inclusive misogynists unfortunately. Itās rare, but it happens. Some cis men who date trans women are like that.
Look at his website and scroll through his comics, itāll be pretty plain to see.
Yep, fair enough. Didnāt even have to scroll that far
https://lemmy.world/post/45513297
Better than trying to get him to sign up for a timeshare.
What exactly does āconfigure plugins on web pagesā mean? Is it supposed to be Wordpress? And why wouldnāt you just tell them to Google it?
Artist creates their own problems.